Historically, people approach negotiation with some level of negativity: fear, uncertainty, disadvantage, aggression. The "new order" of negotiation uses a more sophisticated, emotionally intelligent approach: empathy. It might seem strange at first, but if you think about the conditions that make a negotiation favorable all the way around, there is some level of trust among… Continue reading High-EQ negotiation
Category: Managing Stress, Anxiety, Overwhelm
Making the tough decision to leave your job
How do you really know if you should leave your job? At the root of this question is not salary and benefits and commute and flexibility. If it were really about those things, you could evaluate the trade-offs and make a decision already. But if the question about whether to leave your job is lingering,… Continue reading Making the tough decision to leave your job
Navigating change: how to be visible and protect yourself
UPDATE: Check out this week's Facebook Live on this topic, which does a deep dive with some practical steps not included in this blog post: https://www.facebook.com/aureliancoach/videos/308451219960456/ The foundation of navigating change in your organization's leadership is managing up. You must align your work and results with the priority initiatives of your (new) leadership. While you… Continue reading Navigating change: how to be visible and protect yourself
3 questions to ask before you set boundaries at work
Knowing how to set boundaries at work in unhealthy or unproductive situations is an important skill, both for yourself and ultimately for the team involved. But what does it mean to set boundaries at work, and how should you do it to achieve the desired outcome? Let's start by talking about what a boundary is.… Continue reading 3 questions to ask before you set boundaries at work
Two questions if you are managing with limited resources
Challenges of midlevel managers have some common themes, one of them being managing multiple initiatives within limited resources. "Limited resources" might be defined as not enough people, not enough budget, or not enough time (or all three). There are two types of work we perform: daily whirlwind tasks and larger, overarching initiatives. You'll need to… Continue reading Two questions if you are managing with limited resources
Successfully Manage the Mental Work-Home Transition (The Solution Is Not What You Might Think!)
Even if you're the type of person who loves your job and doesn't mind being consumed by it, at one point or another, you've probably faced the challenge of how to limit the mental energy you expend on work in non-work situations. You've searched for a way to make sure you leave work at work… Continue reading Successfully Manage the Mental Work-Home Transition (The Solution Is Not What You Might Think!)
Strategies from a public speaking expert
An interview with Victoria Lioznyansky of ByVictoriaL.com
Start strong
A lot of anxiety is in just getting started. So start strong.
Reject burnout
You can proactively reject burnout as a condition of your life.
The myth of multi-tasking
If you are suffering from burnout, you've got to put a question mark on the addiction to multi-tasking.
Everything is not important! Let’s review important vs urgent
Everything is not - cannot possibly be - important.
The #1 tip to curing burnout
Burnout results from focusing too much on process and not enough on outcomes. Burnout is getting lost in minutiae. Burnout is focusing on just what is being thrown in your face instead of taking what is thrown and evaluating it through the lens of what you're ultimately trying to accomplish. The cure to burnout is… Continue reading The #1 tip to curing burnout
Call it what you want, but burnout is burnout
The first step is to recognize burnout, because many would reject the term, yet experience all the signs and symptoms.
Stop making pros/cons lists
It's just giving you a page of words to stare at... and still feel undecided.
A “plan” is not what you think it is.
That is not really a plan. That's simply a well-positioned series of steps.
Not delegating work: what’s your excuse?
You learned. So can someone else.
Taking action is always the win
It's amazing to me how many people really believe they have a crystal ball.
The difference between risk and uncertainty
Risk and uncertainty are not interchangeable. They mean totally different things.
Why you should seek failure
If you haven't had a spectacular fail in the last year, you haven't even given yourself the opportunity to learn anything.
Controlling your narrative
Despite the day to day tensions and nastiness that my mom might have endured in the corporate world as an immigrant and woman in the early 1980s, I grew up hearing a story of a very different tone.
Quit multitasking in two (consecutive!) steps.
You need to do two things. Just two things!
The secret to managing overwhelm is realizing: There is no pie.
There was no piece of pie for me. I was desperately struggling to carve out what felt like even 1% of the pie for myself.
Neutralize negative thoughts.
How you feel about something is only derived from what you think about it.